It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

Today I want to talk about negative thoughts. I’m very passionate about this topic and have been for a long time. I think it’s especially important right now, with everything that’s going on, and all the feelings and emotions that may be coming up for you, for all of us. 5 years ago when I started my business I quickly noticed a trend, people were afraid to have negative thoughts. I wanted to know where this fear came from and scoured the internet. I noticed another trend whilst scouring, particularly in my field, a narrative about predominantly thinking positive thoughts in order to be happy & live the life you want. Before I say anything else, let me say that I fully encourage a positive mindset, I think it’s an incredible mindfulness tool, BUT YOU’RE ALSO HUMAN & IT’S OKAY TO HAVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS! 

Let me say it again for the people in the back… IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY!

When I coach clients about negative thoughts & emotions my line of thinking is this; let the thought come up, acknowledge it & then ask questions. You can learn a lot about yourself during this process of self-discovery. Why did I have this thought? Where did it come from? What’s going on in my life or in this moment to make me feel this way? Maybe you need a good cry. Maybe you need to scream into a pillow. Take a long shower. Have some time alone. Go for a long walk. Maybe you need to meditate, journal, or talk to a therapist. Thoughts will come and go, it’s part of the human condition, so let them come, acknowledge them, process them, and then deal with them in real time. For me, when coaching, it’s not about the thought, it’s about how long you live in that negative state. You can’t live there, that’s not good for health, but shoving all your feelings down isn’t good for your health either. You need to process feelings and emotions as they come up. So here’s how I do it:

I have a negative thought 😟

I acknowledge it – I see you… 👀🧠

I ask questions; Where did you come from? Why are you bumping around in my head? What’s going on in my life right now that bred this thought? Okay, I think I have enough information, now what?

I need tools to help me process these uncomfortable feelings & emotions. What tools are available to me, that will also work for me? 

PAUSE… I can give you a list of 10,000 incredible tools, but the trick is, you have to pick ones that resonate with you so you’ll do them, commit to them, come back to them & and they actually provide results for you. So find what works for you, the following are just a few suggestions…

You could process your feelings via journaling, meditating, physical movement, discussing struggles with a friend or therapist, getting outside, taking a day off to rest and recover, etc. There are so many incredible tools out there to help you process feelings in real time! Carve some time out of your day to find the tools that work best for you.

Moral of the story, IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY, especially right now! Give yourself the freedom to feel whatever you need to feel. Then process those feelings, and move on. You can be grateful that you’re not sick, while also feeling afraid of losing your job. You can be thankful that your fridge is full of food, while also feeling really sad that you can’t go to dinner with friends and family. It’s all okay. It does not mean you’re a demon spawn from hell, you’re just human 👽

For the entire month of April I am offering new clients the opportunity to pay what you can for virtual coaching sessions in meditation, mindfulness, breathwork & yoga. Now more than ever we need to make sure we’re taking care of ourselves both physically & mentally. I’d love to help you through this incredibly hard time. You can sign up for your FREE consultation below. Be well & take care of each other ❤️

Book a session today! You may fill out our contact form, call us at 323-849-0039 or shoot us an email jenna@yoginest.com

Photo: @jessicaczarneckiphoto

Make Fear Your Ally

How are you managing fear during ever-changing global events?⠀

A long time ago I received great advice about fear. It went something like this:⠀

Fear is part of the human condition. It will never go away. So what if instead of allowing fear to control you, you invited it to join your life experience?⠀

What I gathered from this advice is that fear could become your ally!

Add that advice to what mindfulness teaches you about fear & you get something that looks like this: ⠀

We need fear, it keeps us safe when we’re in physical danger, but more often than not our experience with fear is self-created. You may fear public speaking, showing your true feelings, failure, etc., but these feelings don’t put your life in danger, so how can we manage them? Fear breeds insecurity & self-doubt, which can lead to stress, which can lead to lower immunity & more, so it’s imperative that we learn how to live with fear in a more harmonious way. What if we could turn fear into an ally that would allow us to become more courageous & fearless. When we become more mindful about our fears we also become more centered, focused & relaxed, no matter what stands before us. So how can we do this? Let me walk you through my process: ⠀

Fear arises 👀
I notice it, see it, name it; “I’m afraid I’ll get sick.”⠀
I take a moment to think about how realistic this fear is. Do I have a high probability of getting sick? After considering the variables the answer is no. I haven’t left the house in weeks or come into contact with anyone that could be sick. As long as I stay home & keep social distancing my chances of getting sick are very low.⠀
I’ve taken control back. ⠀
I’m thankful that fear tries to keep me safe, but know that in this situation that sense of fear was brought on by an overwhelming amount of negative news that creates fear that doesn’t serve me.

You can apply this same process to any fear that comes up for you, fill in the blank & repeat🙌🏽 ⠀

Mindfulness allows you to see fear as a passing experience that you actually have a great amount of control over. Acknowledge your fear, name it, take it by the hand & allow it to become your ally. Give it a try this week ❤️

For the entire month of April I am offering new clients the opportunity to pay what you can for virtual coaching sessions in meditation, mindfulness, breathwork & yoga. Now more than ever we need to make sure we’re taking care of ourselves both physically & mentally. I’d love to help you through this incredibly hard time. You can sign up for your FREE consultation below. Be well & take care of each other ❤️

Book a session today! You may fill out our contact form, call us at 323-849-0039 or shoot us an email jenna@yoginest.com

Photo by: @heidizumbrun

My pandemic do’s & don’ts… What are yours?


In addition to limiting the amount of negative news I digest & keeping track of what I’m grateful for, I’m also keeping a list of promises I’ve made to myself during this challenging time. I look at this list EVERY DAY! It’s there to remind me what my do’s & don’ts are while traversing the ups & downs of this pandemic. What do’s & don’ts have you implemented to keep yourself physically & mentally healthy during COVID? Let me know in the comments👇🏽Here’s my list ❤️⁠⠀
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DO:⁠⠀
👍🏽 Move your body for a minimum of 10 minutes per day⁠⠀
👍🏽 Continue to eat healthy⁠⠀
👍🏽Stay in touch with friends & family – Especially those who are living alone⁠⠀
👍🏽 At least 1 mindfulness exercise per day for a minimum of 10 minutes – Breathwork, meditation, etc.⁠⠀
👍🏽 Keep your brain active; read, puzzles, draw, play games, etc.⁠⠀
👍🏽 Brain dump every morning & every night before you go to bed – This is basically just stream of conscious writing in my journal – I set a timer for 3-5 minutes depending on how much time I have and I don’t stop waiting until the timer goes off⁠⠀
👍🏽 Get ready @ least 3 days per week – I do my hair and makeup like I’m going out & it feels SO good! It’s all about mindset!⁠⠀
👍🏽 Get outside!⁠⠀
👍🏽 Think about what you’re most looking forward to when this is over ⁠⠀
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DON’T:⁠⠀
🚫 Over do it with news⁠⠀
🚫 Get lazy⁠⠀
🚫 Forget there are ways to be social without being physically social – Houseparty, Zoom, etc.⁠⠀
🚫 Eat like crap ⁠⠀
🚫 Find yourself in a web of complaints & feeling sorry for yourself. You’re luckier than most! ⁠⠀
🚫 But also, don’t shove your feelings down either – It’s okay to not be okay – Just don’t allow yourself to live there for too long⁠⠀
🚫 Forget about your practice – Continue to do yoga, meditation, breathwork, mindfulness ⁠⠀
🚫 Focus only on the bad things that are happening⁠⠀
🚫 Develop bad habits – Mainly don’t be a couch potato⁠⠀
🚫 Smother your boyfriend or your pets, lol :)⁠

For the entire month of April I am offering new clients the opportunity to pay what you can for virtual coaching sessions in meditation, mindfulness, breathwork & yoga. Now more than ever we need to make sure we’re taking care of ourselves both physically & mentally. I’d love to help you through this incredibly hard time. You can sign up for your FREE consultation below. Be well & take care of each other ❤️

Book a session today! You may fill out our contact form, call us at 323-849-0039 or shoot us an email jenna@yoginest.com

Photo: @jessicaczarneckiphoto ⁠

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