How comfortable is it for you to be alone with your thoughts?
Confession – I used to think I was just an extremely extroverted human in my younger years. It was rare that I didn’t have plans. I filled every second with something; work, school, friends, insert distraction, insert distraction, insert distraction.
Years later & thousands of dollars in therapy 😂 I realized all I was trying to do was avoid, avoid, avoid. I was avoiding all of my uncomfortable feelings & emotions. It’s sad really. I often wonder how many people are living their lives like this & don’t realize their completely burned out by their own distraction tactics. I know I was & it took some digging, hard work & commitment to figure it out.
Truth -Today I can honestly say that I love hanging out with myself 🤣 and with very little distractions. In fact, I’m more introverted now than ever. I’m 100% comfortable being alone with myself & my thoughts & I owe this to my exceptional therapist, dedication & mindfulness.
More truth – Getting to this point was PAINFUL! It was not pleasant work at all 😩 Rummaging through all those neglected feelings & emotions was HORRIBLE (just trying to set up realistic expectations of the process, haha).
BUT…it was SO worth it! I’m so glad I stuck it out, ugly cried 1 billion times & cared for all those feelings & emotions that deserved my time & attention, because now they’ve been put to rest.
Don’t get me wrong, I am NOT perfect, FAR from it, but now when a sneaky upsetting feeling or emotion pops up I know how to deal with it in real-time & I’m over it in less than 24 hours 🎉
I’m here to ask, to beg you, to dedicate time to healing old wounds, nurturing painful feelings & emotions & making your mental health a priority! The payoff is priceless. Not only will you have an incredible relationship with yourself but all of your relationships will flourish because when you’re happy in your own skin it permeates every aspect of your life.
Do one small thing today, or sometime this week, to help you get closer to nurturing parts of yourself that have been longing for attention. Take care of you so you can be fully present for others ❤️