We are conditioned to bottle up our feelings, hide them, shove them deep down & move on. I don’t believe it’s malicious, I think it’s learned behavior that’s passed down from generation to generation. Either way, it’s detrimental to our health.
When we’re little & outwardly express an emotion we are shushed, told we’re okay & distracted with toys or snacks, but rarely allowed space & freedom to simply express our pain, frustration & confusion via. healthy coping methods. We then carry this into our adult lives & struggle to manage difficult feelings & emotions.
Don’t get me started on openly discussing mental health, it’s getting better but we still have a long way to go & this is a conversation for another post.
Today I want to focus on building a simple & actionable self-healing routine. When life becomes challenging & you’re experiencing painful and/or difficult emotions walk yourself through the following steps. I find it easiest to do this working through each of the following cues in my journal 👇🏽
🌞 Begin by simply acknowledging that you’re having a difficult time, that it’s okay, normal & part of life.
🌞 Allow feelings & emotions to come & go freely without judgment or trying to change them. Let them be without attachment or harmful self-talk.
🌞 Gentle & kind inquiry – Start a conversation with yourself about what you need at this moment to help you work through this challenging time in a healthy way.
🌞 Find a way to get centered & grounded. You might try a simple breathing exercise, short meditation, time outside, warm shower, whatever you think will help to boost your mood, clear your mind & help you gain control over how you react to & manage challenges & difficulties.
Now you’re ready to carry on with the rest of your day or night 🙌🏽
If you begin to incorporate quick & easy exercises like the one above on a regular basis processing your feelings will become second nature & you’ll start to notice a feeling of lightness & a sense of control over your feelings, emotions, & the challenges that are presented to you.
Your mental health coach,